Extras & Freebies

Here’s a convenient place to find some of the things that you might be looking for… Hope these are an encouragement to you!

New book for Writers, Speakers, & Leaders!

Is there a way to gather followers and still follow Jesus? If you’re asking this question, this book is for you.


it possible to both build up your stats and take up your cross? Is there a way to raise your Google rank, and still elevate Jesus? My co-author, Kate Motaung, and I have come to the strong and happy conclusion that there is a way. We’d like to invite you to join us for coaching session on platform-building with the carpenter from Nazareth.

Are you a writer, speaker, or ministry leader? Do you want to build a platform that elevates Jesus, not yourself? Sign up here to receive release information on Influence: Building a Platform to Elevate Jesus (Not Me).

Circle Questions

A great resource for Small Group Leaders.


Download your set of Circle Questions here.

Women don’t join a small group because they want to show off their new scarf or nail polish color. They come because they want to be part of something. They want to pour the contents of their hearts into a circle of friends who will lean forward with interest, laugh at their funny stories, and cry over their heartaches. They want to know and be known.

But as a leader (either officially or not) in your group, how do you help make this connecting happen?

The answer: questions. Really, really good questions. I call them Circle Questions because as you go around the circle answering questions, you’re pulling a tighter circle of support around each woman.

Download your set of Circle Questions here.

Leaders, learn more here, and learn how to avoid my Mistakes here

Meditation Cards

Each of these 38 cards coordinates with a particular lesson from Control Girl. 


You can use the cards without the book and vice versa, but they compliment each other beautifully. Please let the women in your group that these cards are available for FREE download here.

For purchase, there are two options. The “Sampler Pack” is a set my favorite meditations, taken from various lessons in the book. Or the “Full Set” includes the meditations for all 38 lessons in the Control Girl book. Purchase here.

For more information, tips on using the cards, and links to each individual chapter’s cards, go here


Leader's Guide

A companion Leader’s Guide is available for free download here.


This Leader’s Discussion Guide is intended as a companion to my Bible study, Control Girl, and will be helpful for both small and large group leaders.

Find a full selection of Leader materials, click here.

Blog Series: How to Be Free of that *Other* Control Girl

6 week blog series. Sign up here.


Is there some other Control Girl whose antics are causing you to fret, stew, or seethe? Does she produce anxiety or hostility in you? If so, I’ve designed this 6 week blog series for YOU!

Each post, delivered to your inbox, will offer you a new step toward freeing yourself from that other Control Girl in your life.

Coloring Book

Reflections on Surrender is a coloring book companion to Control Girl.


 While you don’t have to work through the Bible study to enjoy the coloring book, the two compliment each other nicely! With original artwork by Janyre Tromp (who, by the way, was also the editor for Control Girl), this book is filled with reminders that God is in control, so we don’t have to be.

Janyre and I hope that as you add color and design to the artwork, you’ll also soak your heart in the truth on the page.

Get more information and a peek inside here. You can purchase on Amazon, or here at ControlGirl.com.

Control Girl Quiz Blog Series

Take the Control Girl Quiz!


The Control Girl Quiz is a great non-threatening way to introduce your mom, sister, friend, or aunt to the message of Control Girl! But here’s a suggestion: Send the quiz to a whole group of friends, so nobody feels singled out. (It just works better that way.)

Sign up here to have the follow-up Quiz Blog Series delivered to your inbox each week.

Just want the quiz? Go here.

Want to print the quiz? Go here

Blog Series: Control Girl Q & A

4 week blog series. Sign up here.


Should parents control their kids? Why did I choose women of the Bible for this study? Is surrender dangerous? Let’s talk through your questions, one by one. Sign up to receive one post per week, when you sign up here.

My hope, as you think through these various questions about control, is that you’ll be even more enticed to lay down your burden of control, and be free.

Blog Series: Small Arrow Challenge

4 week blog series. Sign up here.


Are you sick and tired of your Control Girl tendencies? Take the Small Arrow Challenge, which focuses on moment-by-moment decisions which all add up to a new direction.

Each post, delivered to your inbox, will offer you a weekly assignment, as you practice “small arrow surrender” toward God. Sign up here.

Control Girl to Jesus Girl Series

Real life stories of transformation. 


An 8-post series, telling real life stories of women who are on the path from Control Girl to Jesus Girl. These women wouldn’t say they’ve arrived. They can’t claim to be perfectly Christ-like. But they are surrendering control and heading in a new direction.

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