When I’m pouring, 

I’m not measuring. 

Do you compare yourself?

 On social media, in the neighborhood, at church, or the school drop-off lane, do you push yourself to prove that you measure up, then feel ashamed when you don’t? Measuring yourself against others isn’t healthy. And it isn’t God’s plan. In fact, the way of Jesus is completely upside down from this measure-up world. He invites us to follow him and be restored to freedom, confidence, and joy.

Join me as—with humor and straightforward honesty—I share what I’ve discovered about my own measure-up fears and get-ahead pride in this six-week study. Together, we’ll explore the conversations Jesus had and stories he shared with people who—like us—were comparing themselves.

Let’s leave measure-up comparison behind and connect with those around us by choosing Jesus’s me-free way of living: lifting others up and pouring ourselves out!




Releasing May 19, 2020

Shannon Popkin helps us take a fresh and challenging look at the everyday mindsets we wrestle with. Showing us God’s higher ways straight from the life of Jesus, she calls us from our me-focused thinking to His kingdom-focused purposes. After this study and with the power of the Holy Spirit, I won’t allow those thoughts to stay around any longer. 

Lynn Cowell

Proverbs 31 Speaker, Author of Make Your Move

If you struggle with measuring up. If you’re worried about what people think. If you dread someone seeing you in a less than ideal situation, then you’re human. We all struggle with comparing ourselves to others in some way. That means we all need Shannon’s honest and wise words on the pages of this book. I know I did and I’m betting you do, too!

Jill Savage

Author of No More Perfect Moms, No More Perfect Kids, and No More Perfect Marriages

Shannon Popkin has done it again! She has masterfully written another must read to speak to the struggles of our soul. Inviting us to look up and listen to the tender truths of God and learning to silence the lies of the enemy against us, Shannon shows us how to finally live freely in a cultural of continual comparison. For every woman who has an area of her life where she wonders if she is truly enough- here is your answer. 

Erica Wiggenhorn

Author of Unexplainable Jesus: Rediscovering the God You Thought You Knew by Moody Publishers

   Comparison Girl Companion Journal


 This journal is a companion to Comparison Girl and offers:

  • A place to record your responses to the Bible study and application questions at the end of each lesson.
  • Thought-provoking stories and journal prompts, which correlate to each chapter’s theme.
  • Space for taking video session notes, plus the printed verses we’ll study and additional observation study and discussion questions.
  • Extra prayers, quotes, and verses to encourage you on your journey

Shannon combines Jesus’ teachings with brilliant spiritual insights and powerful tools like “The Disgust Challenge” that invite you to leave Comparison Girl living behind in favor of freedom in Christ. If you want to love people more, let go of beating yourself up or learn how to shake off our culture’s “me-first” mindset, then grab Comparison Girl and gather some friends so that you can share this experience together.

Barb Roose

Aspire Women’s Events’ speaker and author of Surrendered: Letting Go and Living Like Jesus

Comparison. We all fight it. But for many of us, it feels like we are losing the battle. Why? Because what we need to combat comparison is not simply the knowledge that it hurts us, but the tools to resist it, and that is exactly what Shannon Popkin has given us. With fresh insight, biblical grounding, and light-hearted humor, Comparison Girl offers practical steps for curbing this temptation. If comparison is your struggle, this book is your guide!
Sharon Hodde Miller

Author of Free of Me: Why Life is Better When It's Not About You

Podcast & Program Interviews – Comparison Girl

FamilyLife Today

with Bob Lapine and Dave & Ann Wilson

Do you remember the time you felt like you didn’t measure up? I do. It was sixth grade camp, and I told the story here on the FamilyLife broadcast. 

It’s not always comfortable to tell the world how I’ve struggled (and still do!) with feeling inadequate. My hope, in sharing about my own Comparison Girl journey, is to invite others to Jesus’s me-free living in a measure-up world.

Here’s the two-part broadcast:


with Erin Davis & Dannah Gresh

Revive Our Hearts’s daily response to Covid-19 crisis is to remind us to be grounded in the truth of God’s Word. I’m delighted to join Dannah Gresh and Erin Davis to talk about the role of comparison in our current crisis, and how to respond like Jesus.

Martha & Mary Show

Listen in to our conversation for both Martha-types and Mary-types as I talk about comparison with my dear friends, Katie Reid and Lee Nienhuis.

Redefining Balance Podcast

With Jenny Stemmerman

On this podcast for Christian working moms, Jenny and I talked about comparison and the impact it has on the way we see ourselves and others. We also talked about the “race to the bottom” and the difference it makes when – instead of trying to prove that we’re the “hottest mess”, we choose to be humbly vulnerable with each other.

The Debbie Chavez Show

with Debbie Chavez

You can’t have a conversation with Debbie and not receive a little joy that spills over from her life. Listen in as Debbie and I talk about:

 how comparison is like a drug
• escaping comparison by listening to Jesus
• looking-down-your-nose comparison
• drowning-in-shame comparison
• comparing our physical appearances
• how serving changes the way we see others and ourselves

Christian Publishing Show

Overcoming Fear and Comparison 

If you’re a writer, speaker, or ministry leader, you’ve probably had to grapple with both fear and comparison as you’ve stepped out to use your gifts for God. 

Listen in as my co-author Kate Motaung and I have a conversation with Thomas Umstattd Jr. Brought to you by the Steve Laube Agency.

Comparison Girl Launch Party

Special thanks to these 5 Endorsers, who each made an appearance at my online launch party to chat about comparison and you can find them at these places in the video.

Erica Wiggenhorn: 34:12

Alicia Bruxvoort: 48:39

Barb Roose: 1:02:09

Katie Reid: 1:17:15

Lee Nienhuis: 1:30:23

Author and dear friend, Shannon Popkin, expertly and biblically walks us through several markers and mistakes of living according to comparison in this measure up world and gently points us to a better way. Written with humor and brutal honesty, Shannon sheds the pretense and fights for her readers’ hearts with biblical wisdom, humility and truth. Comparison Girl is a must-read for this generation of girls and the next.

Lee Nienhuis

Moms in Prayer Podcast host, Speaker, and Author of Countercultural Parenting

With a humble pen and a bold honesty, Shannon invites us to look closely at our subtle “comparison game” and recognize the truth behind it— Comparison is not just a harmless habit; it’s an all-out attack on the life we’ve been created to live. Using the very words of Jesus, Shannon shows us how to trade the exhaustion of measure-up comparison for the exhilaration of me-free living. Get ready to wage war and take back the abundant life you were created to enjoy!

Alicia Bruxvoort

Speaker and Writer with Proverbs 31 Ministries

Comparison Girl Video Teaching Series

These six video sessions compliment the six chapters in Comparison Girl.  Please choose the option that works best for you or your group:

  • Comparison Girl book study only
  • Comparison Girl book study and video sessions—either on alternate weeks or weekly
  • Comparison Girl video sessions only

Each teaching session is about 18 – 25 minutes long.

Learn More

In the Comparison Girl Companion Journal, you’ll find extra observation study questions for further reflection and discussion about the passage discussed in the video session. Also in the companion journal, you’ll find space for taking notes and the printed passages of Scripture—ready for you to mark and highlight, as we study together. In addition, we have the Bible verses which you may print out here.

As Comparison Girls, we have a lot to think through. If we’re going to break free from the bondage and isolation which stem from our measure-up mindset, we’re going to have to start learning to listen for the voice of our Jesus, not the voice of our enemy. These teaching sessions provide a way to do just that.

RELEASING MAY 19 (Sign up HERE to receive release info)

Comparison is a sneaky issue that can work its way into almost any situation. But is all comparison bad? Through her in-depth study of the Scriptures, Shannon Popkin reveals two sides to this prevalent issue: negative, sinful comparison and positive, biblical comparison. This book both convicted me of the sinful tendencies hidden in my own heart and encouraged me to view myself and others through the eyes of Christ.
Kate Motaung

Author of A Place to Land: A Story of Longing and Belonging

In a sideways-glancing, elbow-jamming, status-grasping culture, Comparison Girl supplies an upside-down approach to an age-old problem. Shannon Popkin exposes the crippling effects that comparison has on our forward-motion in the Kingdom, yet also demonstrates how healthy comparison can inspire us to rise and walk free. Discover how to exchange feelings of superiority for a lifestyle of service and feelings of inferiority for a lifetime of belonging.
Katie M. Reid

Author of Made Like Martha, speaker, co-host of The Martha + Mary Show podcast

Comparison Girl is a needed resource for today’s women. I love how Shannon takes us through comparison in Scripture, acknowledging how normal it is for us to compare, but also providing biblical principles for how to manage it and take our eyes off of others and direct them to Jesus Christ.
Brenda Yoder

Licensed Mental Health Counselor, Author, Speaker

Here's the tip I got to share in the wrap up of our Speak Up panel on Platform-Building: As influencers, we must continue the ongoing work of sorting out our motives.

So often, we set out with a heart to selflessly share what God has first given us. But there's no denying social media's strong undertow of self-interest.

Instead of simply desiring to serve and give and share, my motives are muddied with a desire to receive praise, get applause, and gain recognition.

In our book Influence, I shared a Heart Sifter tool which helps weed out the impure motives, so we can see the ones which are pleasing to God, and make our next decisions. (Check out more on this book at www.shannonpopkin.com/influence/ )

But for the daily, little choices about what will I post, how will I steward my time, and how will I interact on social media, it's helpful to regularly return to these two questions:

Am I here to serve others, or myself?
Am I here to lift up Jesus or me?

#elevatingJesusnotme #shinebrightly #followmeasifollowhim #lifthimhigh #influencebook #christianwriters #christianspeakers #speakuprocks2020 #SpeakUpRocks @katemotaung @fiveminutefriday

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TODAY: I'll be joining my friend, Michelle Nietert, on her facebook page LIVE today at 11:30 CST (12:30 EST)!

Michelle has been doing an amazing job of building enthusiasm and giving you a window into the Speak Up conference as she interviews various faculty members each week. But THIS week, we're teeing things up, because the conference begins tomorrow!!

So if you're attending Speak Up, or interested in someday attending, please join us as we talk about Speaking Up as Christians. #SpeakUpRocks #SpeakingUp #ChristianWriters #ChristianSpeakers #WritersConference #PlatformBuilding #StartsTomorrow #InsiderScoop

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New trailer video!
Learn more at www.comparisongirl.com

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In this podcast interview, you’ll hear my first impression of Jen, then her version of the story. Plus our difference in coffee mug collection. And some great truth on finding freedom from measure-up living. #linkinbio

Here’s Jen:
It is so easy to get in a comparison trap as we scroll social media or look at others lives .

I loved talking with my friend @shannonpopkin about how to pour instead of trying so hard to measure up .

Join us by searching Coming Alive Conversations on your favorite podcast app or by going to www.comingaliveministries.com #comingaliveconversations

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I don’t have to tell you this was taken a while so. The plaid suit gives it away, I think.

I’m the big sister in the family.

So much I could say, but today I want to thank God for that guy in the plaid suit.

There’s never been a day that I remember not feeling proud of my dad. I know lots of girls can’t say that about their dads, but I think those of us who can, should.

My dad is gracious, wise, faithful, protective, and hardworking. He can fix things and is happy to do so. He’s the kind of man who goes the extra mile for you then once he gets there, still has time to talk.

He loves the Lord and he loves his girls. I’ve always known both were true.

When I look at that little girl in the yellow dress, I see confidence and contentment and joy and hope—in large part because I was the daughter of the guy in the plaid suit. My dad.

Love you, Dad. I’m so thankful God gave you to me. #happyfathersday

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The Debbie Chavez show! I love Debbie's passion for God, and her encouraging, upbeat personality. It was a joy to talk with her about:

▶️ how comparison is like a drug

▶️ escaping comparison by listening to Jesus

▶️ looking-down-your-nose comparison

▶️ drowning-in-shame comparison

▶️ comparing our physical appearances

▶️ how serving changes the way we see others and ourselves

Link in my bio for the full podcast:

#comparisongirl #podcastinterview #firstshallbelast #lastshallbefirst #greatestistheservant #comparingdown #comparingup #comparisoninthemirror #afirmfoundation #comparisonthedrug #escapingthecomparisontrap

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Satan knows that participating in a community of people who are all serving each other and glorifying God is what protects us from bondage—while comparison keeps us stumbling back into it. So Satan will keep tempting us into me-first comparison. And Jesus will keep inviting us to live me-free.
#comparisongirl ComparisonGirl with @kregelbooks .
#ComparisonGirl #ControlGirl #breakfree #spiritualfreedom #glorifyGod

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I am so thankful for these three sisters! Here’s what I see in them. They each serve the Lord with joy and excellence, but they do it differently. They are comfortable with knowing and leaning into their own unique gift sets, embracing their own unique God-written stories, and then celebrating each others’! •
Together, God has multiplied their ministry far more—I think—than any impact one sister could’ve had on her own. And isn’t that true of all of us?

Thank you @carolkentspeaks , @jadimkoff and
and @bonnieemmorey , for your kind support and for living the message of “comparison girl”. Can’t wait to see you (virtually at least), at the Speak Up conference on July 9-11.

Anybody want to join us? Affiliate link in my bio. #speakuprocks #speakersisters #comparisongirl #spoutnotlines

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"Comparison Girl" is a 6 week study for women. If you're considering it for your group, or have questions, will you let me know? For more information, visit www.comparisongirl.com (link in bio). #comparisongirl #mefreeliving #spoutnotlines ...

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Here’s the very FIRST photo I’ve received of a #comparisongirl group!! And what a special group it is!

Two of these ladies (@deniseperry and @sueannosterink 😘) have become precious to me over the past couple of years as they’ve prayed for me, encouraged me, and even supported the project by sharing a story for one of the lessons and being part of the live audience for the teaching videos!

I can’t tell you what it means when women I respect so much invite me to the conversation as they open God’s word together.

Jesus, we want to follow you!

If your group is doing Comparison Girl will you let me know? I’m scheduling lots of group visits in person and on zoom. I’d love to meet your group as well!

#biblestudy #smallgroup #womenintheword #summerstudy #comparisongirl #wisdomfromabove #mefreeliving

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