Hey, I’m Shannon.

And I’ve been a Comparison Girl for as long as I can remember. Literally, my first memory at age four, is of feeling humiliated because someone found out that I could not read. Oh, the humiliation!

It seems silly now. Why was I so worried about being exposed as an illiterate preschooler? Yet some of my current struggles are just as absurd. Why do I worry about being exposed as a less-than-perfect mom? Or a middle-aged woman who struggles with her weight? Or a Christian who still sins?

The constant effort to prove that I measure up (or try to hide when I don’t), does not lead to a life of freedom and joy. Here’s what does: learning to live me-free. I hope you’ll stick around and join me in learning these lessons from Jesus on me-free living in a measure-up world! 

Is this the first time we’ve met? Welcome! If you have more questions about me, come visit my “about me” page! 

Do you compare yourself?

 

On social media, in the neighborhood, at church, or the school drop-off lane, do you drive yourself to prove that you measure up? Do you feel ashamed when you don’t? Measuring yourself against others isn’t healthy. And it isn’t God’s plan. In fact, the way of Jesus is completely upside down from this measure-up world. He invites us to follow him and be restored to freedom, confidence, and joy.

Join me, as I share what I’ve discovered about my own measure-up fears and get-ahead pride. In this six-week study, we’ll explore the conversations Jesus had and the stories he shared with people who—like us—were comparing themselves.

Let’s leave measure-up comparison behind and connect with those around us by choosing Jesus’s me-free way of living: lifting others up and pouring ourselves out!

“Comparison. We all fight it. But for many of us, it feels like we are losing the battle. Why? Because what we need, to combat comparison, is not simply the knowledge that it hurts us, but the tools to resist it, and that is exactly what Shannon Popkin has given us. With fresh insight, biblical grounding, and light-hearted humor, Comparison Girl offers practical steps for curbing this temptation. If comparison is your struggle, this book is your guide!”

Sharon Hodde Miller

Author, Speaker, Bible Teacher

If you struggle with measuring up. If you’re worried about what people think. If you dread someone seeing you in a less than ideal situation, then you’re human. We all struggle with comparing ourselves to others in some way. That means we all need Shannon’s honest and wise words on the pages of this book. I know I did and I’m betting you do, too!

Jill Savage

Author of No More Perfect Moms, No More Perfect Kids, and No More Perfect Marriages

Shannon Popkin has done it again! She has masterfully written another must read to speak to the struggles of our soul. Inviting us to look up and listen to the tender truths of God and learning to silence the lies of the enemy against us, Shannon shows us how to finally live freely in a cultural of continual comparison. For every woman who has an area of her life where she wonders if she is truly enough- here is your answer.

Erica Wiggenhorn

Author of Unexplainable Jesus: Rediscovering the God You Thought You Knew by Moody Publishers

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  • 6 Teaching Sessions, which correlate with the chapters of the book
  • DVD + digital downloads
  • One Comparison Girl book
  • One Journaling Workbook
  • Leader Discussion Guide

Each session is about 18 – 25 minutes long. Dive deeper into what Jesus teaches about the difference between comparison in the world and comparison in the Kingdom.

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Journaling Workbook

The companion Comparison Girl Workbook offers:

  • A place to record your responses to the Bible study and application questions at the end of each lesson.
  • Thought-provoking stories and journal prompts, which correlate to each chapter’s theme.
  • Space for taking video session notes, plus the printed verses and additional observation study and discussion questions.
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  • Available either as part of the Leader’s Kit, or as a separate purchase.

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This book is what I would consider a must read. That’s a lot coming from a 65 year old woman who has walked with Jesus for 47 years and is well read. Here’s the deal. This book caused me to face some things about my own comparisons and how I measure myself against others. It helped me call some unhealthy things out in my own life that I never stopped to realize or face. I am being transparent here because that’s how much I think this book can help any woman who compares with others, finds herself jealous or feeling insignificant or insecure. From years of women’s ministry, I think that might be a lot of us. Thank you Shannon for a remarkable message! (Review on Amazon.)

Debbie Alsdorf

Author and Speaker

Shannon Popkin helps us take a fresh and challenging look at the everyday mindsets we wrestle with. Showing us God’s higher ways straight from the life of Jesus, she calls us from our me-focused thinking to His kingdom-focused purposes. After this study and with the power of the Holy Spirit, I won’t allow those thoughts to stay around any longer. 

Lynn Cowell

Proverbs 31 Speaker, Author of Make Your Move

FamilyLife Today

with Bob Lapine and Dave & Ann Wilson

Do you remember the first time you felt like you didn’t measure up? I do. It was sixth grade camp, and I told the story here on the FamilyLife broadcast.

It’s not always comfortable to tell the world how I’ve struggled (and still do!) with feeling inadequate. My hope, in sharing about my own Comparison Girl journey, is to invite others to Jesus’s me-free living in a measure-up world.

Here’s the two-part broadcast:

Grounded

with Erin Davis & Dannah Gresh

Revive Our Hearts’s daily response to Covid-19 crisis is to remind us to be grounded in the truth of God’s Word. I’m delighted to join Dannah Gresh and Erin Davis to talk about the role of comparison in our current crisis, and how to respond like Jesus.

Moms in Prayer

with Lee Nienhuis

Are you feeling anxious and overwhelmed, as you get “back-to-school” updates from your school, church, and local governments? Join Lee Nienhuis and I as we talk about our illusion of control, the destruction that comes with comparison, and how to respond today with the uncertainties of tomorrow.

No More Perfect Podcast

with Jill Savage

Jill has been talking about this topic of comparison and perfectionism and how they divide us way longer than I have. She had some great things to add to our conversation as we discussed comparing in two directions–one where we come out better than someone else and one where we come out worse than someone else. When we compare “up,” we experience jealousy. When we compare “down,” we experience disgust. 

Listen in and be reminded that when Jesus interacted with people comparing themselves, he never said, “Just stop comparing!” Instead He turns it upside down and invites us to the freedom and joy of me-free living.

 

Coming Alive with Jenn Hand

with Jenn Hand

Laugh with Jenn and I as we tell about our first impressions of each other (yes, we were both comparing), and compare our patterns of collecting coffee mugs – which are completely opposite. Plus we’ll talk plenty about Jesus and his unique way of comparing. 

 

Compared to Who?

with Heather Creekmore

It’s really an author’s dread. You’re scrolling Amazon, and see a book on YOUR book’s same topic. But what about if your book’s topic is comparison?!
It will take some humility, but it COULD mean that you’re meant to be friends.
I so appreciate my new friend and fellow “Comparison Girl” Heather Creekmore. She’s the real deal, y’all. I love her heart for the LORD and her willingness to invite the “other author” onto her show that’s all about comparison: @comparedtowho
I hope you’ll love our conversation, and become a regular listener of “Compared to Who?”
GEMS Girls Clubs

with Cindy Bultema

It was a joy to connect with my friend Cindy Bultema at GEMS (Girls Everywhere Meeting the Savior), and talk about Comparison at Christmas.
 
You know, I so relate with the disciples who were always trying to elbow past each other, asking, “Who’s the greatest? How do I measure up?” But Jesus taught them to ask a better question.
 
The Love Offering

with Rachael Adams

I so enjoyed my conversation with Rachael, and I hope you will, too! Here are some quotes from our conversation:

  • “This desire to be in control and compare the things I can’t control overlapped more than I realized.” 
  • “My heart seems to be bent toward pride and perfection and measuring up in the eyes of other people and it doesn’t lead to freedom and joy.” 
  • “We’ve got to handle the problem with comparison before we even go over to the window.”
  • “He’s inviting us to adopt a me-free mindset. I’m not here to prove I’m better than you. I’m here to serve you.”
  • “When you’re feeling inadequate you want to retreat and pull away. The enemy attacks us in isolation. We need to get out of the corner.”
LIFE Today TV

with Randy Robison

It was a joy to join Randy on LIFE Today to talk about Comparison. I especially appreciated the opportunity to talk about our current political and social climate, and how Christians are not to “compare down” in self-righteous disgust or condescension toward those who disagree OR those who sin differently than we do.

Redefining Balance Podcast

With Jenny Stemmerman

On this podcast for Christian working moms, Jenny and I talked about comparison and the impact it has on the way we see ourselves and others. We also talked about the “race to the bottom” and the difference it makes when – instead of trying to prove that we’re the “hottest mess”, we choose to be humbly vulnerable with each other.

Martha & Mary Show

Listen in to our conversation for both Martha-types and Mary-types as I talk about comparison with my dear friends, Katie Reid and Lee Nienhuis.

Art of Friendship

With Kim Wier

There is something in us that wants to prove that we have more or are more. We want to measure up. So what does this do to our relationships? Is there any way to stop being jealous of a friend? How should I respond to demands of this measure-up culture?

Here’s my conversation with Kim Wier, where we talk about these questions and more.

Your Spiritual Game Plan

with Cheri Fletcher

Cheri invites us as women, to live out our true callings—which stay consistent, throughout all the seasons of life. Comparison and the desire to measure up distracts us from God’s purpose for our lives. But what if we approached comparison with me-free humility? Rather than having our eyes on ourselves, what if we entered a room of people, saying, “I’m not here to prove that I have more or am more. I’m just here to share what’s in my measuring cup. What God has given me.” That’s when we are most fee to be ourselves.

 

The Notice

with Susan Hoekstra

It was a joy to get to know Susan on my launch team and talk with her about leaning in and say, “Yeah, me too…” and share our both our feelings of inadequacies and also the secret enjoyment we have in outdoing others. 

 

The Debbie Chavez Show

with Debbie Chavez

You can’t have a conversation with Debbie and not receive a little joy that spills over from her life. Listen in as Debbie and I talk about:

 how comparison is like a drug
• escaping comparison by listening to Jesus
• looking-down-your-nose comparison
• drowning-in-shame comparison
• comparing our physical appearances
• how serving changes the way we see others and ourselves

Christian Publishing Show

Overcoming Fear and Comparison 

If you’re a writer, speaker, or ministry leader, you’ve probably had to grapple with both fear and comparison as you’ve stepped out to use your gifts for God. 

Listen in as my co-author Kate Motaung and I have a conversation with Thomas Umstattd Jr. Brought to you by the Steve Laube Agency.

Comparison Girl Launch Party

Special thanks to these 5 Endorsers, who each made an appearance at my online launch party to chat about comparison and you can find them at these places in the video.

Erica Wiggenhorn: 34:12

Alicia Bruxvoort: 48:39

Barb Roose: 1:02:09

Katie Reid: 1:17:15

Lee Nienhuis: 1:30:23

Comparison Girl Chapters & Quotes:

Author and dear friend, Shannon Popkin, expertly and biblically walks us through several markers and mistakes of living according to comparison in this measure up world and gently points us to a better way. Written with humor and brutal honesty, Shannon sheds the pretense and fights for her readers’ hearts with biblical wisdom, humility and truth. Comparison Girl is a must-read for this generation of girls and the next.

Lee Nienhuis

Moms in Prayer Podcast host, Speaker, and Author of Countercultural Parenting

With a humble pen and a bold honesty, Shannon invites us to look closely at our subtle “comparison game” and recognize the truth behind it— Comparison is not just a harmless habit; it’s an all-out attack on the life we’ve been created to live. Using the very words of Jesus, Shannon shows us how to trade the exhaustion of measure-up comparison for the exhilaration of me-free living. Get ready to wage war and take back the abundant life you were created to enjoy!

Alicia Bruxvoort

Speaker and Writer with Proverbs 31 Ministries

Comparison is a sneaky issue that can work its way into almost any situation. But is all comparison bad? Through her in-depth study of the Scriptures, Shannon Popkin reveals two sides to this prevalent issue: negative, sinful comparison and positive, biblical comparison. This book both convicted me of the sinful tendencies hidden in my own heart and encouraged me to view myself and others through the eyes of Christ.
Kate Motaung

Author of A Place to Land: A Story of Longing and Belonging

In a sideways-glancing, elbow-jamming, status-grasping culture, Comparison Girl supplies an upside-down approach to an age-old problem. Shannon Popkin exposes the crippling effects that comparison has on our forward-motion in the Kingdom, yet also demonstrates how healthy comparison can inspire us to rise and walk free. Discover how to exchange feelings of superiority for a lifestyle of service and feelings of inferiority for a lifetime of belonging.
Katie M. Reid

Author of Made Like Martha, speaker, co-host of The Martha + Mary Show podcast

Comparison Girl is a needed resource for today’s women. I love how Shannon takes us through comparison in Scripture, acknowledging how normal it is for us to compare, but also providing biblical principles for how to manage it and take our eyes off of others and direct them to Jesus Christ.
Brenda Yoder

Licensed Mental Health Counselor, Author, Speaker

When Adam and Eve ate from the forbidden tree, their sin cost them everything—including access to the Garden and the tree of life. Still today, every baby born to them is destined to die.

But God, being rich in mercy and steadfast love, kept his promise. He sent Jesus, the seed of the woman, to crush the serpent and redeem what was lost, there on Calvary’s tree.

Christ alone carves a new path back to God, and back to the Tree of Life - which we’ll eat from in the New Creation, where we’ll live forever.

This is the true story. Will you live like it’s true?

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Follow artist Cheyenne Werner on Instagram @designedbychey or Etsy at DesignedbyCheyShop.

Listen to the Live Like It’s True Podcast, with Shannon Popkin. And sign up for my email list to win one of three 8x10 prints of this painting, "Return to the Tree of Life". https://www.subscribepage.com/shannonpopkin (link in bio)

#originstory
#creationstory
#Genesis
#AdamandEve
#painting
#watercolor
#treeofknowledgeofgoodandevil
#treeoflife
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#onetruestory
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When you flip the calendar to December, do you notice you start complaining and criticizing? Do you become more negative and controlling?

Yeah, me too. But I’m not resigned; I’m resolved!

Join me for the Five C Challenge! Five days of hitting reset, to help make this the best (not the worst) time of the year.

No complaining.
No criticizing.
No correcting.
No condemning.
No comparing.

Are you in? Let's go!

Sign up link in my bio. Look for "The Five C Challenge".

Have we met? If not, hi! I’m Shannon. I’m a west MI author & speaker. My husband Ken and I just celebrated #26years and we have 3 young adult kids, and two shih tzus who  (unlike the kids) have no plans of moving out. I’ve written two studies: Control Girl and Comparison Girl (both published with Kregel) and I host the Live Like It’s True podcast. From the platform 🎤, the page 📒, and the podcast 🎙, it’s my joy to invite you to live like God’s Word is true! 📖
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I asked my friend @designedbychey to create this watercolor, "Return to the Tree of Life" to correlate with my Genesis series on the Live Like It's True podcast.

So when Adam and Eve ate from the tree, they sided with the serpent and betrayed their good God. Their sin cost them everything—including access back into the Garden and to the tree of life. Still today, every descendent born to them enters this world, destined to die.

But God, who is rich in mercy and steadfast love, kept his promise and sent the seed of the woman—Jesus—to crush the serpent and redeem what was lost, by dying on Calvary’s tree.

Christ alone carves a new path back to God, and back to the Tree of Life. If you and I are In Christ, we'll eat from this tree and live forever in the New Creation.

This is the true story. How can you live like the it's true?

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Follow artist Cheyenne Werner on Instagram @designedbychey or Etsy at DesignedbyCheyShop.

Listen to season 4, “The True Story of the Beginning” on the Live Like It’s True Podcast, with Shannon Popkin.

#originstory
#creationstory
#Genesis
#AdamandEve
#painting
#watercolor
#treeofknowledgeofgoodandevil
#treeoflife
#livelikeitstrue
#podcast
#Biblepodcast
#overarchingstory
#onetruestory
#giveaway
#freepainting
#freeart
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He is making all things new. Not all new things.

Join me on the Live Like It's True podcast, for this amazing conversation with Nancy Guthrie. We’re discussing all we have to look forward to in the new Garden City.

Link in my bio.
https://wp.me/p7IZQm-85M

We'll be back for several "Okay, now what?" episodes in 2023. We'll talk through several current issues, and how to live like the story of Genesis 1-3 is true.

#LiveLikeItsTrue #TrueStory #BiblePodcast #StudyGodsWord #BibleStudy #Storytelling #Genesis #originstory #revelation #treeoflife #nancyguthrie #thegospelcoalition
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I don’t want to think about the fights I chose and tears I shed in years past—trying to make Christmas decorating day into the festive ideal I had in my mind:

Kids helping me decorate the tree. My husband there, invested in the family moments. And everyone getting along and enjoying the time together…

It never, never ended up that way. I would get frustrated because someone wasn’t doing something right, then blow up in anger, and say, “Fine, then! I’ll do it myself!” And everyone would scatter to their corners while I burst into tears.

Ugh. Here’s what I’m learning: God never asked me to have a perfectly decorated house; God DID ask me to walk in the Spirit. These verses apply on decorating day, too:

“I say, then, walk by the Spirit and you will certainly not carry out the desire of the flesh. For the flesh desires what is against the Spirit, and the Spirit desires what is against the flesh; these are opposed to each other, so that you don’t do what you want….But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.”
‭‭Galatians‬ ‭5:16-17, 22-23‬ ‭CSB‬‬

May it be so in my heart and home—and yours!

Check out my Christmas Five C Challenge. Link in my bio.

#christmasdecor #decoratingday #fivecchallenge #controlgirl #surrender
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Three generations. So grateful for God’s blessings in every season. #treetraditions #threegenerations #happythanksgivng ...

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Just before I was called onto the platform to speak the first time, I remember praying, "God, there is nowhere on earth I'd rather be right now than right here." I was so overwhelmed with love for these dear women of Colombia who attended the “At His Feet” conference in Medellin. @asuspiesmujeres

Their city made me cry out to God. Their questions made me pray. Their worship made me weep.

One question that came in was: "How can I let go of everything and have confidence that everything will be fine?" My response was, "Well, everything might not be fine. But even if you take control, everything might not be fine."

That's the truth for all of us, isn't it? God doesn't promise us a life without pain or trials. The world is broken, and this is particularly true in the beautiful country of Colombia. But here's what we know: God is still in control. He is sovereign over all. And He invites us—his dear children—to put our hope and our trust in Him, not ourselves.

What a privilege to encourage these precious women from Colombia with truth. Will you pray for the 400 women who gathered in Medellin, and 100+ who joined us from Armenia, Bogota, El Salvador, Canada, Hawaii, and more.

Thank you to @editorialportavoz (my Spanish publisher) for making this trip possible, and for Jackie and Marco who traveled with me and translated (Jackie) for me. It was an amazing opportunity.

#colombia #womensconference #teachthebible #controlgirl #surrendertogod #heisincontrol #notmywillbutyours
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4:30 am. Driving through the part of Medellin known for partying, drugs, and prostitution—I couldn’t help but notice the difference Jesus makes. 12 hours earlier, women from all over this city and beyond gathered blocks away, to open their Bibles, drink in the story, and learn to live like it’s true.

From the beginning, with the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, God has been showing us that He alone knows what is good for us and bad for us. The question is: will we surrender control to Him?

#firsttimeincolombia #heisgodandiamnot #treeoftheknowledgeofgoodandevil #whoisincontrol
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What a beautiful day with the women from @asuspiesmujeres in Colombia! We had over 500 women join us for a full day conference—including those who joined us from Armenia 🇦🇲, Canada 🇨🇦, Barranquilla, Bogota, Hawaii, Dominican Republic 🇩🇴, and many other places!

I had the pleasure of addressing this amazing group of women with my message: Una mujer controladora! (Don’t be a controlling women!)

I’m praying that God will use this precious time we had together to encourage and equip each of us to serve Him, to serve our families, and our communities!

God is in control, which means we don’t have to be.

Also, thanks so much to @editorialportavoz for making this possible.

As for me? My heart is overflowing! ❤️❤️❤️ I will never forget this life changing experience.

#colombia #medallin
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Out for dinner in Bogota with my friends from @editorialportavoz ❤️🍽

Crepes & Waffles is amazing my new favorite! (Please expand to Michigan! 🙏🏼)

David, thank you hosting us—and for rescuing me before I went into the wrong bathroom! 😳

Marco, I’m glad this bill was pesos not dollars!! 😳😳🤣

What a delicious meal and great company!

#crepesywaffles #bogota #colombianfood
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I had the honor to presenting at the @clccolombia book sellers convention in Bogota on Thursday! What a special joy it was to connect with these amazing people who serve the Church.

#christianpublishing #spanishpublishing #bogota #ilovecolombia🇨🇴
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Hi from Bogota, Columbia! What an amazing evening in the home of my new friend, @consutojo ! What a beautiful time of sharing with these precious students of God’s Word!

#comparisongirl #controlgirl #colombia
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Day 1 on our adventure in Colombia! We flew into Bogota late lady night (loved traveling with @petercerra and Jackie from @editorialportavoz . They took good care of me!)

This morning we did an interview on #controlgirl with the radio show at In His Presence church. They have 45,000 people attending this amazing church! AND they have a beautiful bookstore 📚, amazing Colombian coffee ☕️, and a car elevator! 😲

Thanks for being such a sweet hostess, Camila!

#adventureincolombia #bogota #christianbooks #christianpublishing
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Oh how I’ve tried to white-knuckle my way through life—gripping onto control. But I've come to see control as such a burden. It weighs me down and tears at my relationships. I become the worst version of myself when I'm trying to manage all of the contingencies and lunge for one loose thread after another.

And amazingly, I find the peace, security, and joy I was after in the first place, when I surrender to the One who actually is in control.
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Have we met? If not, hi! I’m Shannon. I’m a west MI author & speaker. My husband Ken and I just celebrated #25years and we have 3 young adult kids, and two shih tzus who  (unlike the kids) have no plans of moving out. I’ve written two studies: Control Girl and Comparison Girl (both published with Kregel). I just launched a new podcast, Live Like It’s True! From the platform 🎤, the page 📒, and the podcast 🎙, it’s my joy to invite you to live like God’s Word is true! 📖

#ControlGirl #Surrender #WaveTheWhiteFlag #ControllingMom #ControllingWife #LayDownYourBurdens #NotMyWill #FreedomInSurrender #Marriage #MarriageGoals #MarriageCounseling #TrustinMarriage #ReleasingControl #WomenoftheBible #ChristianBook #BibleStudy #WomensMinistry #WomensBibleStudy #SmallGroup
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Is your marriage filled with tension and conflict? Would it help to consider what God had in mind for marriage, in the first place?

In season 4 of the Live Like It's True podcast, we're looking at the True Story of the Beginning in Genesis 1-3. In this episode, Kelly Needham and I discuss the consequences spelled out in Genesis 3:16—which we all feel in our marriages. But even this judgment points us back to God's good design for husbands and for wives.

Please join us as we talk about our origin story, and how to live like it's true! Link in my bio. https://wp.me/p7IZQm-88e

#Biblepodcast #biblestudy #womensbiblestudy #genesis #originstory #marriage101 #godsdesign #genesis316 #controlgirl #thefall #marriageconflict #adamandeve #complementarianism #thetruestory #livelikeitstrue #hopeformarriages #marriagehelper #marriagematerial #marriagehelp #marriageproblems #marriagecoach #marriagetips #reviveourhearts #thegospelcoalition #christianpodcast #marriagepodcast
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I love that the skies are visible to all of us—no matter where we are. They’re meant to remind us how much God loved us, and how far he’s distanced us from our sin. Don’t let the corruption around you—or in your own heart—let you forget the best parts of the story. Look up from wherever you are and remember who’s on the throne!

Psalm 103:11-12, 19.

#theheavensdeclare #heisonthethrone
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