Hey, I’m Shannon.

And I’ve been a Comparison Girl for as long as I can remember. Literally, my first memory at age four, is of feeling humiliated because someone found out that I could not read. Oh, the humiliation!

It seems silly now. Why was I so worried about being exposed as an illiterate preschooler? Yet some of my current struggles are just as absurd. Why do I worry about being exposed as a less-than-perfect mom? Or a middle-aged woman who struggles with her weight? Or a Christian who still sins?

The constant effort to prove that I measure up (or try to hide when I don’t), does not lead to a life of freedom and joy. Here’s what does: learning to live me-free. I hope you’ll stick around and join me in learning these lessons from Jesus on me-free living in a measure-up world! 

Is this the first time we’ve met? Welcome! If you have more questions about me, come visit my “about me” page! 

Do you compare yourself?


On social media, in the neighborhood, at church, or the school drop-off lane, do you drive yourself to prove that you measure up? Do you feel ashamed when you don’t? Measuring yourself against others isn’t healthy. And it isn’t God’s plan. In fact, the way of Jesus is completely upside down from this measure-up world. He invites us to follow him and be restored to freedom, confidence, and joy.

Join me, as I share what I’ve discovered about my own measure-up fears and get-ahead pride. In this six-week study, we’ll explore the conversations Jesus had and the stories he shared with people who—like us—were comparing themselves.

Let’s leave measure-up comparison behind and connect with those around us by choosing Jesus’s me-free way of living: lifting others up and pouring ourselves out!

“Comparison. We all fight it. But for many of us, it feels like we are losing the battle. Why? Because what we need, to combat comparison, is not simply the knowledge that it hurts us, but the tools to resist it, and that is exactly what Shannon Popkin has given us. With fresh insight, biblical grounding, and light-hearted humor, Comparison Girl offers practical steps for curbing this temptation. If comparison is your struggle, this book is your guide!”

Sharon Hodde Miller

Author, Speaker, Bible Teacher

If you struggle with measuring up. If you’re worried about what people think. If you dread someone seeing you in a less than ideal situation, then you’re human. We all struggle with comparing ourselves to others in some way. That means we all need Shannon’s honest and wise words on the pages of this book. I know I did and I’m betting you do, too!

Jill Savage

Author of No More Perfect Moms, No More Perfect Kids, and No More Perfect Marriages

Shannon Popkin has done it again! She has masterfully written another must read to speak to the struggles of our soul. Inviting us to look up and listen to the tender truths of God and learning to silence the lies of the enemy against us, Shannon shows us how to finally live freely in a cultural of continual comparison. For every woman who has an area of her life where she wonders if she is truly enough- here is your answer.

Erica Wiggenhorn

Author of Unexplainable Jesus: Rediscovering the God You Thought You Knew by Moody Publishers

Leader’s Kit

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  • 6 Teaching Sessions, which correlate with the chapters of the book
  • DVD + digital downloads
  • One Comparison Girl book
  • One Journaling Workbook
  • Leader Discussion Guide

Each session is about 18 – 25 minutes long. Dive deeper into what Jesus teaches about the difference between comparison in the world and comparison in the Kingdom.

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Journaling Workbook

The companion Comparison Girl Workbook offers:

  • A place to record your responses to the Bible study and application questions at the end of each lesson.
  • Thought-provoking stories and journal prompts, which correlate to each chapter’s theme.
  • Space for taking video session notes, plus the printed verses and additional observation study and discussion questions.
  • Extra prayers, quotes, and verses to encourage you on your journey.
  • Available either as part of the Leader’s Kit, or as a separate purchase.

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This book is what I would consider a must read. That’s a lot coming from a 65 year old woman who has walked with Jesus for 47 years and is well read. Here’s the deal. This book caused me to face some things about my own comparisons and how I measure myself against others. It helped me call some unhealthy things out in my own life that I never stopped to realize or face. I am being transparent here because that’s how much I think this book can help any woman who compares with others, finds herself jealous or feeling insignificant or insecure. From years of women’s ministry, I think that might be a lot of us. Thank you Shannon for a remarkable message! (Review on Amazon.)

Debbie Alsdorf

Author and Speaker

Shannon Popkin helps us take a fresh and challenging look at the everyday mindsets we wrestle with. Showing us God’s higher ways straight from the life of Jesus, she calls us from our me-focused thinking to His kingdom-focused purposes. After this study and with the power of the Holy Spirit, I won’t allow those thoughts to stay around any longer. 

Lynn Cowell

Proverbs 31 Speaker, Author of Make Your Move

FamilyLife Today

with Bob Lapine and Dave & Ann Wilson

Do you remember the first time you felt like you didn’t measure up? I do. It was sixth grade camp, and I told the story here on the FamilyLife broadcast.

It’s not always comfortable to tell the world how I’ve struggled (and still do!) with feeling inadequate. My hope, in sharing about my own Comparison Girl journey, is to invite others to Jesus’s me-free living in a measure-up world.

Here’s the two-part broadcast:


with Erin Davis & Dannah Gresh

Revive Our Hearts’s daily response to Covid-19 crisis is to remind us to be grounded in the truth of God’s Word. I’m delighted to join Dannah Gresh and Erin Davis to talk about the role of comparison in our current crisis, and how to respond like Jesus.

Moms in Prayer

with Lee Nienhuis

Are you feeling anxious and overwhelmed, as you get “back-to-school” updates from your school, church, and local governments? Join Lee Nienhuis and I as we talk about our illusion of control, the destruction that comes with comparison, and how to respond today with the uncertainties of tomorrow.

No More Perfect Podcast

with Jill Savage

Jill has been talking about this topic of comparison and perfectionism and how they divide us way longer than I have. She had some great things to add to our conversation as we discussed comparing in two directions–one where we come out better than someone else and one where we come out worse than someone else. When we compare “up,” we experience jealousy. When we compare “down,” we experience disgust. 

Listen in and be reminded that when Jesus interacted with people comparing themselves, he never said, “Just stop comparing!” Instead He turns it upside down and invites us to the freedom and joy of me-free living.


Coming Alive with Jenn Hand

with Jenn Hand

Laugh with Jenn and I as we tell about our first impressions of each other (yes, we were both comparing), and compare our patterns of collecting coffee mugs – which are completely opposite. Plus we’ll talk plenty about Jesus and his unique way of comparing. 


Compared to Who?

with Heather Creekmore

It’s really an author’s dread. You’re scrolling Amazon, and see a book on YOUR book’s same topic. But what about if your book’s topic is comparison?!
It will take some humility, but it COULD mean that you’re meant to be friends.
I so appreciate my new friend and fellow “Comparison Girl” Heather Creekmore. She’s the real deal, y’all. I love her heart for the LORD and her willingness to invite the “other author” onto her show that’s all about comparison: @comparedtowho
I hope you’ll love our conversation, and become a regular listener of “Compared to Who?”
GEMS Girls Clubs

with Cindy Bultema

It was a joy to connect with my friend Cindy Bultema at GEMS (Girls Everywhere Meeting the Savior), and talk about Comparison at Christmas.
You know, I so relate with the disciples who were always trying to elbow past each other, asking, “Who’s the greatest? How do I measure up?” But Jesus taught them to ask a better question.
The Love Offering

with Rachael Adams

I so enjoyed my conversation with Rachael, and I hope you will, too! Here are some quotes from our conversation:

  • “This desire to be in control and compare the things I can’t control overlapped more than I realized.” 
  • “My heart seems to be bent toward pride and perfection and measuring up in the eyes of other people and it doesn’t lead to freedom and joy.” 
  • “We’ve got to handle the problem with comparison before we even go over to the window.”
  • “He’s inviting us to adopt a me-free mindset. I’m not here to prove I’m better than you. I’m here to serve you.”
  • “When you’re feeling inadequate you want to retreat and pull away. The enemy attacks us in isolation. We need to get out of the corner.”

with Randy Robison

It was a joy to join Randy on LIFE Today to talk about Comparison. I especially appreciated the opportunity to talk about our current political and social climate, and how Christians are not to “compare down” in self-righteous disgust or condescension toward those who disagree OR those who sin differently than we do.

Redefining Balance Podcast

With Jenny Stemmerman

On this podcast for Christian working moms, Jenny and I talked about comparison and the impact it has on the way we see ourselves and others. We also talked about the “race to the bottom” and the difference it makes when – instead of trying to prove that we’re the “hottest mess”, we choose to be humbly vulnerable with each other.

Martha & Mary Show

Listen in to our conversation for both Martha-types and Mary-types as I talk about comparison with my dear friends, Katie Reid and Lee Nienhuis.

Art of Friendship

With Kim Wier

There is something in us that wants to prove that we have more or are more. We want to measure up. So what does this do to our relationships? Is there any way to stop being jealous of a friend? How should I respond to demands of this measure-up culture?

Here’s my conversation with Kim Wier, where we talk about these questions and more.

Your Spiritual Game Plan

with Cheri Fletcher

Cheri invites us as women, to live out our true callings—which stay consistent, throughout all the seasons of life. Comparison and the desire to measure up distracts us from God’s purpose for our lives. But what if we approached comparison with me-free humility? Rather than having our eyes on ourselves, what if we entered a room of people, saying, “I’m not here to prove that I have more or am more. I’m just here to share what’s in my measuring cup. What God has given me.” That’s when we are most fee to be ourselves.


The Notice

with Susan Hoekstra

It was a joy to get to know Susan on my launch team and talk with her about leaning in and say, “Yeah, me too…” and share our both our feelings of inadequacies and also the secret enjoyment we have in outdoing others. 


The Debbie Chavez Show

with Debbie Chavez

You can’t have a conversation with Debbie and not receive a little joy that spills over from her life. Listen in as Debbie and I talk about:

 how comparison is like a drug
• escaping comparison by listening to Jesus
• looking-down-your-nose comparison
• drowning-in-shame comparison
• comparing our physical appearances
• how serving changes the way we see others and ourselves

Christian Publishing Show

Overcoming Fear and Comparison 

If you’re a writer, speaker, or ministry leader, you’ve probably had to grapple with both fear and comparison as you’ve stepped out to use your gifts for God. 

Listen in as my co-author Kate Motaung and I have a conversation with Thomas Umstattd Jr. Brought to you by the Steve Laube Agency.

Comparison Girl Launch Party

Special thanks to these 5 Endorsers, who each made an appearance at my online launch party to chat about comparison and you can find them at these places in the video.

Erica Wiggenhorn: 34:12

Alicia Bruxvoort: 48:39

Barb Roose: 1:02:09

Katie Reid: 1:17:15

Lee Nienhuis: 1:30:23

Comparison Girl Chapters & Quotes:

Author and dear friend, Shannon Popkin, expertly and biblically walks us through several markers and mistakes of living according to comparison in this measure up world and gently points us to a better way. Written with humor and brutal honesty, Shannon sheds the pretense and fights for her readers’ hearts with biblical wisdom, humility and truth. Comparison Girl is a must-read for this generation of girls and the next.

Lee Nienhuis

Moms in Prayer Podcast host, Speaker, and Author of Countercultural Parenting

With a humble pen and a bold honesty, Shannon invites us to look closely at our subtle “comparison game” and recognize the truth behind it— Comparison is not just a harmless habit; it’s an all-out attack on the life we’ve been created to live. Using the very words of Jesus, Shannon shows us how to trade the exhaustion of measure-up comparison for the exhilaration of me-free living. Get ready to wage war and take back the abundant life you were created to enjoy!

Alicia Bruxvoort

Speaker and Writer with Proverbs 31 Ministries

Comparison is a sneaky issue that can work its way into almost any situation. But is all comparison bad? Through her in-depth study of the Scriptures, Shannon Popkin reveals two sides to this prevalent issue: negative, sinful comparison and positive, biblical comparison. This book both convicted me of the sinful tendencies hidden in my own heart and encouraged me to view myself and others through the eyes of Christ.
Kate Motaung

Author of A Place to Land: A Story of Longing and Belonging

In a sideways-glancing, elbow-jamming, status-grasping culture, Comparison Girl supplies an upside-down approach to an age-old problem. Shannon Popkin exposes the crippling effects that comparison has on our forward-motion in the Kingdom, yet also demonstrates how healthy comparison can inspire us to rise and walk free. Discover how to exchange feelings of superiority for a lifestyle of service and feelings of inferiority for a lifetime of belonging.
Katie M. Reid

Author of Made Like Martha, speaker, co-host of The Martha + Mary Show podcast

Comparison Girl is a needed resource for today’s women. I love how Shannon takes us through comparison in Scripture, acknowledging how normal it is for us to compare, but also providing biblical principles for how to manage it and take our eyes off of others and direct them to Jesus Christ.
Brenda Yoder

Licensed Mental Health Counselor, Author, Speaker

I often say that Ken makes me laugh every day. Here was today’s humor. ...

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It never gets old. #shihtzu #fetch #ottomanjewels ...

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Did you know I also have a course for small group leaders? It will help you gather your women, start strong, and lead well. DM me for details.

I'm so thankful for all of the Bible study leaders who invest in their women, aren't you? Tag a leader you love, who might love leading this study!

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Do you have a child ready to drive off into the sunset?

From the time you could
cup her in your hands
till now—as you watch her spread her wings, she has been safely tucked into the good, wise, strong hands of God.

Visit controlgirl.com to learn more about my 9 week study.

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I want to live out of the True Story, not the false narratives of the world. Do you?

🎙Join me for the Live Like It’s True podcast, where my hope is to inspire you to know the Story, share the Story, and live like the Story is true.

#TrueStory #BiblePodcast #StudyGodsWord #BibleStudy #Storytelling #StorytellingTips #StorytellingPodcast #ChristianPodcast #ChristianWomen #PodcastGuest #GospelPodcast #TheMicisOn

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This is where God speaks to me. Not out loud. And there's nothing special about this place (though I do enjoy it). It's simply the place I open his Word.

It take my cup of coffee, and leave my phone inside, and open my Bible... then listen. And the Creator of the universe convinces my heart, over and over, that this book in my lap is the true story.

I want to live out of the True Story, not the false narratives of the world. Do you?
🎙Join me for the Live Like It’s True podcast, where my hope is to inspire you to know the Story, share the Story, and live like the Story is true.


#LiveLikeItsTrue #TrueStory #BiblePodcast #StudyGodsWord #BibleStudy #Storytelling #StorytellingTips #StorytellingPodcast #ChristianPodcast #ChristianWomen #PodcastGuest #GospelPodcast #TheMicisOn

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Congratulations to @charityanneparker and Emily Betz! 🎉🥳🎊

You’re the winners of our summer giveaway!

Included are:

☀️Pathway to Peace by Ann Swindell.
☀️Esther: Seeing Our Invisible God in an Uncertain World by Amy Carroll and Lynn Cowell
☀️One month membership to Sojo Academy with Jen Evangelista and Arabah Joy.
☀️Life Can Be Good Again by Lisa Appelo

Thanks to everyone who participated and helped me share our summer series! And thanks to our generous guests!

Most of all, thanks to those who have listened this summer. I hope you’ve been inspired to know the story, share the story, and live the story.

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What’s your favorite Bible story? And how does it help you rehearse the true story—rather than the false narrative of the world?

Stories from the Bible are more than just stories. They’re like little velvet drawstring pouches, which bundle up rich truths about the true story.

If you learn a story, then any time you want, you can rehearse that story and remind yourself (or someone else) of what’s true.

Come join me on the Live Like It's True podcast, where we love to increasingly come to know the story, share the story, and live like the story is true.


Here are the stories we've talked about in the summer series:
- The True Story on the Road to Damascus
- The True Story on Straight Street
- The True Story of Esther's Secret
- The True Story of the Burning Bush
- The True Story of the Widow's Last Meal
Which story was least familiar to you? Which one most resonated for your season of life? Which story have you gone back to rehearse?


#LiveLikeItsTrue #TrueStory #BiblePodcast #StudyGodsWord #BibleStudy #BiblesStory #Storytelling #StorytellingTips #StorytellingPodcast #ChristianPodcast #ChristianWomen #TheGospel #TheMicisOn

#thebible #wordofgod #truestoriesofthebible #whatstoryareyoutelling #knowthestory #sharethestory #livethestory #WomensMinistry #WomensBibleStudy #damascusroad #queenesther #burningbush #widowofzaraphath

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Big news. Big encouragement. And a BIG giveaway.

Don’t miss my next email, coming soon…

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We're getting to work on TEEN Comparison Girl!

Thanks for @kregelpublications for getting behind us as we get pick up the pen and get to work, repacking the me-free message of Comparison Girl for teens.

Do you know and love a teen who struggles with comparison? Or should we say, do you know a teen who ➡️doesn't?⬅️ Yep, us, too. We hope this book will punch a hole in the darkness!💥

@leenienhuis is wife and mom of four teens and tweens. She's a passionate Bible teacher, author of Brave Moms, Brave Kids and Countercultural Parenting, and she cohosts the #marthaandmaryshow podcast.

In case you haven’t met us:

Lee has been features on Focus on the Family, True Woman, Proverbs 31, Iron Sharpens Iron, GEMS, and American Heritage Girls. Lee invites you to trust God for this generation and the next. Visit leenienhuis.com

@shannonpopkin is a wife and mom of three young adults. From the platform, page, and podcast mic, she invites you to open your Bible, drink in the Story, and live like it's true.

Shannon's books include Control Girl and Comparison Girl, and she hosts the Live Like It's True Podcast. Shan serves as a speaker dozens of times per year and she’s been featured on Revive Our Hearts, FamilyLife, and Proverbs 31. Visit Shannonpopkin.com.

We'd love your prayers as we embark on this next adventure ✍🏼✍🏼, together!

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I’m loved by God. He sent much more than a leaf on the trail to show me. (Though that was a fun discovery.)

He sent his one and only Son, and wrote a story that spanned centuries—a story of a Garden and a forbidden taste and a wilderness and generations of waiting for the Son.

And can it be? That the long awaited Son of God endured the shame a cross—dying that I might live?

“Amazing love! How can it be that Thou, my God, should die for me?”

Will I live out of this story? Will I live like it’s true that I’m loved that much? That I’m forgiven? That my story is attached to his—which means life even after death?

This is the true story and I get to be part of it. Even a little leaf reminds me that I am loved by God.

Have we met? If not, hi! I’m Shannon. I’m a west MI author & speaker. My husband Ken and I just celebrated #26years and we have 3 young adult kids, and two shih tzus who  (unlike the kids) have no plans of moving out. I’ve written two studies: Control Girl and Comparison Girl (both published with Kregel), and #amwriting two more.

I host a podcast, Live Like It’s True, where we talk through astonishing stories of the Bible and how to live like they’re true.

So, from the platform 🎤, the page 📒, and the podcast 🎙, it’s my joy to invite you to live like God’s Word is true! 📖

(Also, @marydemuth this made me think of you!)

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“As she knocks that flour from the side of the jar to get every last drop, she models her faith to her son—and he becomes part of the story as well. And then she returns and there’s enough! There’s enough.”

You won’t want to miss this episode of the Live Like It’s True Podcast, as @lisaappelo and I talk about the True Story of the Widow’s last Meal.

So inspiring!!

#LiveLikeItsTrue #TrueStory #BiblePodcast #StudyGodsWord #BibleStudy #Storytelling #StorytellingPodcast #ChristianPodcast #ChristianWomen #PodcastGuest #GospelPodcast #TheMicisOn #widowofzarephath #elijah #storyofthebible #thebiblerecap #thebibleproject

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Beauty. Rest. Remembering. Connecting with each other. Refocusing on the Creator.

Thanks @cranhillranch . What a beautiful, refreshing weekend. #christiancamp #familycamp #refresh #prayercabin

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Did you know I also have a course for small group leaders? It will help you gather your women, start strong, and lead well. DM me for details.

I can also send you session one to preview, if you're interested in our Comparison Girl teaching videos, which are a great option for this study!

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Have you been trying to control it all?

I've come to see control as such a burden. It weighs me down and tears at my relationships. I become the worst version of myself when I'm trying to manage all of the contingencies and lunge for one loose thread after another. And I find the peace, security, and joy I was after in the first place, when I surrender to the One who actually is in control.

Follow me @shannonpopkin and sign up for my #livelikeitstrue emails. Also check out controlgirl.com (link in bio) for lots of freebies, podcast interviews, and to see if this women's study might be a good fit for you, your church, or small group.


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