Do you compare yourself?


On social media, in the neighborhood, at church, or the school drop-off lane, do you push yourself to prove that you measure up, then feel ashamed when you don’t? Measuring yourself against others isn’t healthy. And it isn’t God’s plan. In fact, the way of Jesus is completely upside down from this measure-up world. He invites us to follow him and be restored to freedom, confidence, and joy.

Join me as—with humor and straightforward honesty—I share what I’ve discovered about my own measure-up fears and get-ahead pride in this six-week study. Together, we’ll explore the conversations Jesus had and stories he shared with people who—like us—were comparing themselves.

Let’s leave measure-up comparison behind and connect with those around us by choosing Jesus’s me-free way of living: lifting others up and pouring ourselves out!




Releasing May 19, 2020

My view as I study the “God of creation” today! What a joy. Loving this study!! @adawomenthrive @jenwilkin @yosemite_national_park #yosemitevalley ...

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I’m delighted to be part of the Bloom conference with @comingalivejenn ! The theme this year is SHINE!

everything is online and you can either watch along with everyone this weekend or at your leisure. Get your ticket here!

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Love this group from Victory Family Church in cranberry, Pennsylvania! They win the prize for creativity, don’t you think? Thanks @juliejamesdesign You made my day!

#ComparisonGirl #SmallGroup #BibleStudy #CreativeBibleStudyGirls #PourItOut #LiveLikeJesus @kregelbooks

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SHAME. That's one of the things this group and I talked about last night. Shame can tie me in knots for days. It can keep me from the good things God wants me to do. It's a distraction (an effective one!) that the enemy uses to bring me to my knees--but not in a good way.

Sometimes I confuse shame with conviction, but there's a difference! When I'm dealing with shame, I can know that it's NOT from God. Conviction is from God. Here are some ways I've learned to tell them apart:

Shame is from the enemy; Conviction is from God.

Shame tempts me to hide my sin and pull away from God and others.
Conviction presses me to expose my sin and draw near to God and others.

I feel shame when the enemy wags his finger in my face. I feel convicted when the Spirit invites me to consider the truth.

Shame makes me want to quit. Conviction makes me want to start.

Shame is the result of condemnation. Conviction is the result of humility.

Friend, whatever you plan to spend your day on - whether writing or caring for kids or presenting at work or going out to lunch with friends - may you be full of conviction and empty of shame!

Thanks to the "She Writes For Him" group for inviting me to come speak last night on "Raising a Shield of Faith Over Your Writing". They were so sweet and welcoming (even though my slides were wonky and it was really, really bothering me, and I'm sure my perfectionism was showing!). I love that these women are grouping up to create a safe place to be vulnerable and connect, as they train for what God has ahead for them with their writing. It was a blessing to me, and I hope to them as well!

#shewritesforhimtribe #shewritesforhim @redemptionpress #shame #shameisfromtheenemy #convictionisfromGod #conviction #shieldoffatih #believingtruth #dontlistentolies #writingministry #targetonyourback #getyourarmoron #wordsmatter #spreadinglight #sharingtruth #thedevilainthappy #godisgreater #writersgroup

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The disdain on my face (which seems to be showing up more in 2020) toward other people who are "getting it wrong" betrays my own heart in two ways.

It tells what I think about them, but also what I think about me: I see myself as elevated.

My disgust is always comparing down.

"But isn't some sin disgusting?" you ask. No, ALL sin is disgusting. Plant any tiny grain of sin--like pride, greed, jealousy, or lust, and give it a hundred years with unrestrained growth in any human heart, and it will turn a person into a disgusting creature.

God knows, I have more than just a "grain" of sin.

That's why he sent Jesus to die--to rescue me from what I have and would become. He loved me that much. But he loved other people that much, too! So who am I to elevate myself (one sinful person) above them (other sinful people)?

Jesus calls me to love sinful people, the way He does. It's true that I might be "getting it right" and some other person might be "getting it wrong". But when I'm disgusted with her, I'm the one who's wrong.

#comparisongirl #comparingdown #conviction2020 #electionyear #rightandwrong #covidchurchlife #loveyourneighbor

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I am delighted with the chance to share at my church - @adabible for the Fall Thrive Gathering! This event will be hosted on Zoom next Thursday, Oct. 15 at 7:30 p.m.

I'll be sharing my God story and the lessons I've been learning in this season.

You can join us from home, and we'd love for you to consider hosting a watch party with friends. (Just use a laptop!)

Are you coming? Are you hosting a group? Drop a message and let me know! 🙂

There's a registration link in my bio to receive the connection details.

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The audiobook is here!! I loved the opportunity to read this book, but my greatest hope is that you’d hear from Jesus. His words are what this book is all about.

As you listen on the highway, treadmill, or while you’re cooking, I hope this reading will scatter seeds of truth into your life, which eventually bear fruit.

Thank you so much for listening to this audio book, which is available on Audible,, hoopla, google play, etc.

Where do you listen to audio books?

#ComparisonGirl #AudioVersion #Narrator #WhatAPrivilege #ThanksForListening #oneaudio #rivercitystudios

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