Do you compare yourself?

 

On social media, in the neighborhood, at church, or the school drop-off lane, do you push yourself to prove that you measure up, then feel ashamed when you don’t? Measuring yourself against others isn’t healthy. And it isn’t God’s plan. In fact, the way of Jesus is completely upside down from this measure-up world. He invites us to follow him and be restored to freedom, confidence, and joy.

Join me as—with humor and straightforward honesty—I share what I’ve discovered about my own measure-up fears and get-ahead pride in this six-week study. Together, we’ll explore the conversations Jesus had and stories he shared with people who—like us—were comparing themselves.

Let’s leave measure-up comparison behind and connect with those around us by choosing Jesus’s me-free way of living: lifting others up and pouring ourselves out!

 

 

 

Releasing May 19, 2020

Are you a Comparison Girl—always obsessing over a comment that someone made about you, or some detail that makes you wonder how you measure up? Do you long to sidestep the enemy’s comparison traps?

Here's the first of three questions for the girl who wants to stop comparing and live me-free: "Am I just too focused on me?"

I'm sharing at @girldefined this week. To read about all three questions, click the link in my bio for the full article at GirlDefined.com.

By the way, I'm such a huge supporter of the way @bethany.beal and @krstnclark are inviting the Christian Girl back to God's design at @girldefined !

If you're a teen/twenty-something (or know one!) looking for support and encouragement, check out Girl Defined -and especially their new spring line! (Is it wrong for moms of twenty-somethings to want one of those tee shirts??)


https://www.girldefined.com/three-me-free-questions-for-the-girl-who-wants-to-stop-comparing
#comparisongirl #mefocusbondage #inferioritybondage #superioritybondage #measureupworld #livingmefree #invitationsfromJesus #summertees #iwantone
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It's true with my measuring cup, and it's true with my heart: When I'm pouring, I'm not measuring.

When I walk into a room full of people, the most natural thing is to measure myself against others. But when I feel that first temptation to envy or boast or shrink back or belittle or self-promote, if I will turn my attention to the spout, it gets my eyes off the lines.

I might ask myself, "Who needs someone to listen? Who can I encourage or support? What gifts has God given me which will be particularly helpful in this room? How can I serve? What do I have to offer?"

And the moment I get to work pouring out what I have, I'm no longer measuring. This is the me-free life that Jesus calls us to. When we're pouring, we're not measuring.


#comparisongirl
#mefreeliving
#Jesusfollower
#measureupworld
#comparison #notagame #spoutnotlines #pouringnotmeasuring
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How exciting! Thanks so much to everyone who helped make this a #1 new release!

And wow—what a blessing to read these kind reviews. I’m so grateful for such generous sisters who are willing to study along side me with open hearts and learn from the greatest teacher of all—Jesus!

He taught us that greatness isn’t achieved by being first (ie. #1). We become great by putting others first, emptying ourselves in humility, and pouring our lives out—just like He did.

Lord, help me see the world and myself in your beautiful me-free way, where the goal is not to measure up, but rather to take what I’ve been given and serve.

#mefree #comparisongirl #grateful
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One is the number of people I can stand to have in the room while I'm writing. Are you somebody who likes to go to a coffee shop (pre-Covid for my Michigan friends) and have the hubbub of chatter and movement around you when you work?

Not me. I fly solo when putting pen to paper, and so that means a lot of time alone in the office—which can get lonely. (anybody want to go to lunch, the moment the restaurant doors open?)

One is the total number of men I know who would put up with my wifely lapse in dinner-cooking, bathroom-cleaning, and errand-running over the past month... or four. 😬 Good thing he's the one I'm married to. (Thanks for your kind support, Ken. I couldn't do it without you.)

And One is the number of voices I hope to hear say, "Well done" one day, when reflecting on this book's journey. Of course I have to remind myself of that hope, and not let the voices of other people be my priority.

Listening for Jesus's voice is really what this book is all about, so I want to make sure I cup my ear toward heaven, as this book releases tomorrow. Thanks for enjoying the journey with me, friends! See you tomorrow on launch day!

#comparisongirl #audienceofone #launchday #hiswordsmattermost #upsidedowncomparisons #redlettercomparisons
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Have you ever met someone and thought, "I just know we're gonna be friends"? That's how I felt when I met Alicia. She has wisdom, kindness, passion, a sense of humor, and giftedness--all in double portions.

Alicia is a wife and mom, speaker and Bible teacher, and she's part of the Proverbs 31 writing team. I'm so honored to have Alicia's endorsement for this book. And if you read chapter five, you'll find a story about her there. It's one of my favorite stories in the book.

Are you thinking, "I'd like to meet Alicia!" If so, you're in luck because she's joining us THIS TUESDAY at the Comparison Girl {online} Launch Party! Link in my bio - please RSVP!

Here's Alicia's full endorsement:

“What you’re holding in your hands isn’t a much-needed book; it’s a desperately needed battle plan! With a humble pen and a bold honesty, Shannon invites us to look closely at our subtle ‘comparison game’ and recognize the truth behind it: comparison is not just a harmless habit but an all-out attack on the life we’ve been created to live. Using the very words of Jesus, Shannon shows us how to trade the exhaustion of measure-up comparison for the exhilaration of me-free living. If you’re tired of letting the enemy use comparison to confiscate your joy, steal your significance, and destroy your relationships, this book will equip you to fight back!”
—Alicia Bruxvoort, speaker and writer with Proverbs 31 Ministries

#ComparisonGirl #Endorsement #P31 #proverbs31ministries #spoutnotlines
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Three. It's the number of people I dedicated this book to. I wrote, "To my three kids: Lindsay, Cole, and Cade. May you always find confidence, freedom, and joy in living by the spout, not the lines."

Cade said, "Uh... I guess I'm supposed to read it to figure out what that means?" He makes me laugh like none other.

Three is also the number of major edits that this book required. "Second books are hard," my editor friend, @janyretromp told me. I had to agree. Sort of like having a second child, when the first one is already keeping you busy…So when I turned the manuscript in on June 1, 2019, it still needed lots of work. Thankfully, my publisher, @kregelpublications has an amazing team of editors.

So three is also the number of summer months (all of them) that I spent most days in the office, restringing my sentences. It was a sacrifice which I pray was pleasing to the Lord, and which I know made for a better book.

And now three is the number of days before this book officially releases into the world, and I couldn't be more excited to get it into your hands.

If you've been planning to purchase this book, and want to offer an extra bit of support, would you be willing to pre-order on Amazon? The link is in my bio. Thanks, friends! And there’s a link to my launch party, too—I’d love to see you there!

May we all find confidence, freedom, and joy in living by the spout, not the lines. (And yes, you may have to read the book to figure out what that means.)

#spoutnotlines #comparisongirl #3daystilllaunch #newbook #biblestudy #authorreflections #ilovemyeditors #kregelbooks
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God has done amazing things for us. A little over a month ago, I came down to the kitchen one morning, chatting cheerfully about how good the coffee smelled and how excited I was that Ken had gotten muffins from the store, when he unexpectedly shushed me. I hadn't realized he was on the phone.

He hadn't realized he'd be getting furloughed—at least not that soon.

On days like that you get to see your faith—which can be rather abstract—with more clarity. Would we trust God, even in the midst of a global crisis? Would we choose joy, even with three of us in college and no paycheck coming? Would we believe God's promises even when the future seemed anything but promising?

As I look back on that day with the aroma of coffee mingling with the bitter news of a layoff, I feel glad that we got to experience a moment of walking by faith not sight. As Americans, we don't have as many opportunities to consider life without safeguards, and it's good for us to do so. Not easy, but good.

Though we know there isn't always a happy ending to every story, there certainly is to this one. Ken recently accepted a position with a description that looked like someone had been trying to describe him—and his combined skill set is rather unique. He'll be returning to a former employer (Amway) to do the work he has come to love (data science combined with project management), and we couldn't be more thrilled.

If you could look at an aerial view of the past few years for our family, it's almost as though you can see God leading us right to this door, and preparing us to walk through it. We remember several painful disappointments and closed doors, but now we can see that God was saying gently, "No, this way. I have something better coming..." He truly was in control all along.

Do you believe this? Are you wrestling with some unknown? Do you wonder if God truly is in control?

If so, can we encourage you to hold steady and trust Him a little longer? God sees you, he's for you, and he's with you. But as you face a painful disappointment, we'd love to pray for you. Leave a comment or dm.

#HeTrulyIsInControl #WeAreSoThankful #GodHasBeenGoodToUs #NewJob
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Katie M. Reid will be making a guest appearance at my launch party, and helping me with a giveaway. Are you coming? RSVP link in my bio.

If you haven't met Katie yet, you're going to love her. Katie and I are in a Mastermind group together, and she's the one who keeps us organized and on schedule - but with such a sweet spirit. 🙂 Katie is the author of "Made Like Martha" and the host of the "Martha and Mary Show" - where I was a recent guest! (Link in bio).

I'm honored to have Katie's endorsement for #ComparisonGirl:

“In a sideways-glancing, elbow-jamming, status-grasping culture, Comparison Girl supplies an upside-down approach to an age-old problem. Shannon Popkin exposes the crippling effects that comparison has on our forward motion in the kingdom, yet she also demonstrates how healthy comparison can inspire us to rise up and walk free. Discover how to exchange feelings of superiority for a lifestyle of service and feelings of inferiority for a lifetime of belonging.”
—Katie M. Reid, author of Made Like Martha

Find more from Katie at @katie_m_reid and @madelikemartha

#ComparisonGirl #NewBook #launchparty #MastermindFriend #LivingByTheSpout #Spoutnotlines
https://www.facebook.com/events/2503503866416747/
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I love hosting parties.🎈I probably get a little too into the decorating part. But the beautiful thing about THIS party is: I can have you all into my home and the only thing I have to tidy up is this one shelf! 🤗 It's a good thing, too, because this week is jam packed!
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Speaking of that... I have an exciting announcement coming tomorrow morning. Make sure you've filled out the "Comparison Girl" signup (link in bio) and you'll be first to hear!
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Also, have you RSVP'ed for my online launch party? I just met with @virginiamdavidson (she is the sweetest!) who is going to be our "behind the scenes" girl, making things happen the night of the party. We have a whole lineup of guests, giveaways, and more! You won't want to miss it. If you sign up, facebook will send you an alert that the party is about to begin!
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Can you tell I'm excited? God has truly been so good. Thanks for being my companions during this fun, countdown week! SIX DAYS TILL LAUNCH!
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#comparisongirl #spoutnotlines #launchparty #announcementcoming #redlettercomparisons #firstwillbelast #lastwillbefirst #Jesusemptiedhimself
https://www.facebook.com/events/2503503866416747/

https://www.subscribepage.com/comparisongirl
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Next Tuesday- online launch party! 🎉 🎈 Facebook RSVP in bio. Will you tag a friend?

Lots of giveaways, some guest appearances (stay tuned!), and a time of prayer to dedicate this new book, "Comparison Girl."

So I was bummed that we had to cancel my in-person launch party due to vivid, but you know? I think this means more of y’all can come, so now I’m actually counting my blessings!!

A bit about this book: Have you ever wondered how Jesus would respond to our struggle with comparing wealth, beauty, sin, ministry, and status? Did you know that the Bible actually records Jesus's responses? This book provides an opportunity to compare in a new me-free way, with Jesus as our teacher.

Come to the launch party to find out more (link in bio). And hint, hint: The first giveaway of the evening will go to someone who has PREORDERED #ComparisonGirl on Amazon! So grab your copy today!

http://bit.ly/comparisongirl

#comparisongirl #newrelease #countingdown #biblestudy #spoutnotlines #whatdoesthatmean #comefindout #launchparty @kregelbooks
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