Do you compare yourself?


On social media, in the neighborhood, at church, or the school drop-off lane, do you push yourself to prove that you measure up, then feel ashamed when you don’t? Measuring yourself against others isn’t healthy. And it isn’t God’s plan. In fact, the way of Jesus is completely upside down from this measure-up world. He invites us to follow him and be restored to freedom, confidence, and joy.

Join me as—with humor and straightforward honesty—I share what I’ve discovered about my own measure-up fears and get-ahead pride in this six-week study. Together, we’ll explore the conversations Jesus had and stories he shared with people who—like us—were comparing themselves.

Let’s leave measure-up comparison behind and connect with those around us by choosing Jesus’s me-free way of living: lifting others up and pouring ourselves out!


I’m on the air with Cru today! So thankful for the worldwide ministry of Cru (formerly Campus Crusade), and thankful for this opportunity to bring the reminder of the One who’s actually in control.

To hear this little clip, go to or use the link in my bio.

cru #OnTheAir #MakingYourLifeCount #WhoIsInControl #NotMe #NotYou #LookUp

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#bignews #cantwait #checkyourinbox

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"[Jesus] did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped, but emptied himself, by taking the form of a servant.. He humbled himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross." (Phil. 2:6-8)⁠

Today is the day we remember what Jesus, the prize of heaven, did in our place. The one whose cup was most supremely full of glory and power and righteousness, tipped his filled-to-the-brim cup and emptied himself on the cross and “poured out his life unto death" (Is. 53:12). ⁠

Jesus endured this shame, not because he had sinned, but because we have. He hung on a tree of shame and death that we might one day have the honor of eating from the tree of life.⁠

If Jesus HAD grasped or gripped or clung to his equal-to-God status (which he deserved), he couldn't have emptied himself in such abject humility on a cross. And if we grasp onto our pride and self-sufficiency, we can't receive the gift of eternal life, which he bought for us on that cross.

The Gospel is this: the one who had a cup brimming full of righteousness emptied himself for the ones who had not one drop.⁠

"And can it be that I should gain⁠
An int’rest in the Savior’s blood?⁠
Died He for me, who caused His pain—⁠
For me, who Him to death pursued?⁠
Amazing love! How can it be,⁠
That Thou, my God, shouldst die for me?" ⁠

-Charles Wesley⁠

#goodfriday #Jesusemptiedhimself #Philippians2 #gloryofthecross #andcanitbe⁠

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My friend, Erika VanHaitsma is sharing "The Love Story of the Passover" on @reviveourhearts podcast this week! (link in bio)⁠

If you've worked with me as a speaker, you've gotten to know Erika as my amazing assistant. 🥰 But she is also a speaker, teacher, and lover of God's Word! ⁠

Erika's passion is to make the Bible become alive with three dimensional color, and she does so powerfully in this five-part series re-airing during Passion Week on Revive Our Hearts. It's so good! I hope you'll take some time and listen. ⁠

Erika is also wife to Bryan and homeschooling mom of five kids. They make their home near Ludington, MI. ⁠

Connect with Erika at

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In the past 2 weeks, I’ve shared ten messages...

I’ve served six groups...

I’ve traveled to PA, SC, MI..

I’ve connected virtually with a group in Panama, and one virtual group from multiple states...

I’ve talked about control, comparison, surrender and humility...

I’ve shared from platforms with steps and platforms with links...

I’ve communicated using microphones and cameras, laptops and ring lights, a Spanish interpreter, and just some notes in my lap.

Each audience has been unique and special, yet each woman needs the same thing: Jesus, and the wisdom of His Word.

I’m so grateful for every opportunity I get to share truth from the Bible and invite women to live like it’s true.

But, I must say, I’m also grateful for rest stops in between—like my next two non-speaking weeks. It’s Friday y’all.

Is anybody else looking forward to a weekend home as much as I am?

#wepour #Hefills #thankyouJesus #sogratefultoserve #thankyouLord #Christianspeaker #readyforabreak

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#Repost @clcpty
The path of surrender ends in freedom! Jesus invites us to confess what he did: “Not my will but yours be done” (Luke 22:42).

I am looking forward to gathering with my sisters from panama tomorrow evening online! Join us! More information at @clcpty

¡El camino de la rendición termina en libertad!
Jesús nos invita a confesar lo mismo que Él: “No se haga mi voluntad, sino la tuya” (Lucas 22:42).
@editorialportavoz @shannonpopkin @CLCpty #mujeres #mujeresdefe #control #libertad #diosestuguia🙏 #dejateguiarpordios😉☝

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Some of the stories that @hollyhmyers shares on her #itisforfreedom podcast naturally cause jaw-dropping amazement. But my story isn't like that. I was an average kid with average bondage-to-sin issues and yet God picked me out and set me free. And that DOES cause me to react in jaw-dropping amazement. ⁠

I'd love to share my freedom story with you on the #itisforfreedom podcast! ⁠

PS. If you listen, you're gonna be able to tell that I totally did not prepare for my "Who would you have coffee with?" question. ☕️Afterward, I was thinking, "Why did I pick two men??! I don't ever go out for coffee with men!" #facepalm ⁠🤦‍♀️

But now that I've thought more than two seconds, I have my answer for the WOMAN I would choose to have coffee with. Can you guess who? ⁠

Link in my bio.⁠

Thanks, @hollyhmyers for inviting me to share!⁠

#Christianpodcast #freedominChrist #tellingmystory #HISstory #podcastguest #freetobe #freedom #freeindeed #womensministry #setfree #livingfree #grace #wearefree #womensbiblestudy

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#Repost @monica_malbouef (Thank you Monica!!!)
Whoop! I have a new favorite coloring book! Thank you @shannonpopkin for the extra surprise 😉 This is a coloring companion to go along with the #controlgirl study that every women needs to read! Beautiful illustrations by @janyretromp - Thanks ladies for sharing your gifts this way!

#reflectionsonsurrender #coloringbook #newcover

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Once when Jesus was teaching, a man called out from the crowd, "Teacher, tell my brother to divide the inheritance with me" (Luke 12:13). It wasn't the time or place, and Jesus told him so. Then he turned to the crowd and said, "Watch out! Be on guard for all types of greed" (Luke 12:15). ⁠

Notice that the man brought Jesus a two-person problem. Two brothers who disagreed about an inheritance. But Jesus used this teachable moment to warn about a one-person problem: greed. ⁠

The problem with greed is that you don't know it's your problem. You see everyone else as your problem. Like the person who has a bigger house. The person who has a nicer car. Or the person who goes on vacation every two months. ⁠

Even if you could even things out so that you have just as much in your measuring cup as they do, have you rid yourself of the problem? No, because greed is insatiable. ⁠

Greed affects people who have surplus ad scarcity alike. It's is a poison that will seep into any available heart, regardless of how thick your wallet is. ⁠

So how can we get rid of greed? Many would say just stop comparing. But that's as easy as choosing not to notice that your friend is on vacation again, while you're stuck walking her dog in the snow. ⁠

Jesus didn't teach us not to compare. For more, go to my post titled, "How to stop Comparing Wealth."

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Leading a retreat or wrapping up a Bible study? Check out my surrender prayer stations. 6 interactive prayer stations to encourage your women to spend some intentional time in prayer before the Lord. ⁠

These work nicely with my Control Girl study. $5 in my shop at ⁠

Leaders sign up for my Leader List and get them for free. ⁠

#smallgroup #leadsmall #prayerstations #surrenderprayer #smallgroupleader #bowbeforehim #whenwomenpray #biblestudywrapup #womensretreat #controlgirl

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