Do you compare yourself?


On social media, in the neighborhood, at church, or the school drop-off lane, do you push yourself to prove that you measure up, then feel ashamed when you don’t? Measuring yourself against others isn’t healthy. And it isn’t God’s plan. In fact, the way of Jesus is completely upside down from this measure-up world. He invites us to follow him and be restored to freedom, confidence, and joy.

Join me as—with humor and straightforward honesty—I share what I’ve discovered about my own measure-up fears and get-ahead pride in this six-week study. Together, we’ll explore the conversations Jesus had and stories he shared with people who—like us—were comparing themselves.

Let’s leave measure-up comparison behind and connect with those around us by choosing Jesus’s me-free way of living: lifting others up and pouring ourselves out!


#Repost @kregelbooks
Comparison Girl now has a companion journal!
Join @shannonpopkin in Comparison Girl as she shares what she has discovered about her own measure-up fears and get-ahead pride. As you read, record your responses, action plans, and insights in this personal journaling workbook.
Now available. Link in the bio.
#comparisongirl #christianwomen #ChristianBooks

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When you wear your pride clothes which perfectly disguise your flaws, the group sits back. Self-protectiveness, posturing, bragging and jealousy are invited to the table. ⁠

But when you dress in soft layers of humility and vulnerability, the group leans in. Empathy, compassion, partnership and authenticity are invited to the table.⁠

Humility allows you to truly see other people, rather than being wrapped up in how they see you. Humility forms community—which is where we defend ourselves against enemy attack. ⁠

So turn to someone and say, “Let’s not live behind walls. Let’s be vulnerable, honest, humility-clad people who welcome each other to the circle.”⁠

“Clothe yourselves, all of you, with humility... your adversary the devil prowls around... seeking someone to devour.” I Peter 5:5-8⁠

(From #comparisongirl p.45-46)⁠

#humilityformscommunity #prideformswalls #clotheyourselfinhumility #prideclothes #humbleclothes

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Look at all the places this little book has gone in 2021!

Thank you to the #libronotecompares launch team For the photos from Mexico, Costa Rica, Puerto Rico, Paraguay, Nicaragua, and more.

It’s so exciting to see No te Compares travel more places than I could ever go, and make its way into hands all over the world—speaking to women I could never speak to! (thank you @EditorialPortavoz! )

Will you pray with me for lasting, spiritual fruit for the kingdom? And that this book will continue to travel into new hands, impacting new hearts!

#ComparisonGirl #SpanishLaunchTeam #latinas #GoLittleBookGo #GodisGood

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Just Released!⁠

This 155 page journal is a companion to Comparison Girl and offers:⁠

✏A place to record your responses to the Bible study and application questions at the end of each lesson.⁠

✏Thought-provoking stories and journal prompts, correlating with each chapter's theme.⁠

✏Space for taking notes in the video sessions (coming March 30), plus the verses printed, with additional observation study and discussion questions.⁠

✏Extra prayers, quotes, and verses to encourage you on your journey⁠

Let me know what questions you have! Purchase anywhere books are sold. ⁠

Link in bio for⁠

#comparisongirl #redlettercomparisons #teachingsofjesus #parables #upsidedownkingdom #lastwillbefirst #greatestistheservant #humbleisexalted

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My friend @comingalivejenn tells about the time she and her twin sister were on a field trip to an aquatic center. Mid-day, she saw her sister walking beside her, and said, "Hey, sis, how's it going?" but her sister didn't respond. So she said, "Why aren't you talking to me?" and again her sister didn't respond. So Jenn jabbed her with her elbow and realized she was talking to her reflection in the dimly lit aquarium glass. ⁠

Jenn and her sister looked so much alike that she mistook herself for her sister! That part is funny, but here's the part that's not. Jen always thought of her sister as beautiful, but when she turned to the mirror, the beauty vanished. She just couldn't find it in herself. ⁠

I don't have a twin but I do often have the same problem of seeing everyone else as beautiful but not finding any beauty in the mirror. I have endless grace for others' flaws, but none for my own.⁠

And though at first glance it might seem like I’m putting others first and myself last—the way Jesus taught—but this isn’t true humility in me. It’s actually inverted pride.

Why do I have no problem with my friend gaining ten pounds, but self-loathe when I do? Why am I totally okay with my friend's wrinkles forming, but I'm definitely not okay with my own? Why do I assure my friend that she is God’s masterpiece—a great treasure to Him, then talk to my imperfect self as though my imperfections invalidate my worth?

Am I not elevating myself in pride, as I elevate expectations for myself above everyone else? ⁠

Pride says, "I need to either look flawless or hide every flaw." Humility says, "I care enough about the real you to let you see the real me. The flawed me. The beloved of God, me." ⁠

Check out chapter four of #comparisongirl for more on "Comparing Skin-Deep Packaging".⁠

#comparinglikeJesus #upsidedownkingdom #perfectionism #thatspridetalking #theflawedme #therealme #innercup #cleansemeLord ⁠
#biblestudy #scripture #womensbiblestudy

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Friend, are you tired of measuring yourself against every friend, cousin or random stranger? Are you sick of zooming in on photos, scrutinizing your friends’ hips?

How do I measure up? is the wrong question. Our Jesus has taught us a better one. One that leads to Kingdom greatness!

When I enter a room full of people and ask, How can I pour myself out? my attention naturally turns to the spout, not the lines. My measuring cup’s contents take on new purpose if I’m looking for ways to serve, and keeping my distance makes no sense if I’m getting ready to pour. But here’s the best part: When I tip my cup to one side, the lines become irrelevant. They don’t matter anymore — and this sets me free.

If Jesus had a photo with His disciples, I think He would lean in and examine it closely, but not to measure and compare. He’d be smiling, remembering how He had invested in each of their lives. He loved them. He knew them personally. He emptied Himself to serve each one. That’s the kind of friend I want to be.

-link in my bio to read my devotional at @proverbs31ministries

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Know any Spanish-speaking friends? If so, could you tag them here?

My friends at @avivanuestroscorazones are sharing a review of “No te Compares” written by Reyna Meraz and doing a giveaway!!

So thankful for the amazing Latinas of @avivanuestroscorazones who love Jesus so deeply and serve Him with such joy.
¿Te comparas constantemente con otras personas? En los medios sociales, en tu vecindario, en la iglesia, o al dejar a tus hijos a la puerta de la escuela, ¿te esfuerzas por demostrar que estás a la altura... y luego te sientes avergonzada cuando no es así? Medirse a sí mismo de acuerdo a los estándares de los demás no es saludable. Y no es el plan de Dios. De hecho, el camino de Jesús va completamente al revés del camino de este mundo sumergido en la competencia y la comparación. Jesús nos invita a seguirlo y a recuperar la libertad, la confianza y el gozo.⁠

Participa para ganar el nuevo libro ¡No te compares! disponible en libro digital o físico. ⁠

PARA PARTICIPAR (sigue estas 4 fáciles instrucciones) 👇🏼⁠
1️⃣ Entra al enlace en nuestro perfil @avivanuestroscorazones⁠
2️⃣ Después entra al "Blog Mujer Verdadera"⁠
3️⃣ Lee la "reseña ¡No te compares!" (es la publicación de hoy)⁠
4️⃣ Participa en el sorteo siguiendo el enlace al final del blog

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Look at this beautiful group from Paraguay!

Their leader, Maria is 26 years old and leading these young women from her church in a “No te Compares” study, which began on Monday.

She told me, “I pray to the Lord to guide us and help show the truth to the girls who attend.”

Isn’t that fabulous? I couldn’t be more thrilled. Will you stop for a moment and pray for Maria and her girls?

#libronotecompares #paraguay #smallgroups #smallgroupstudy #mentoring

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