Dear Seventeen-Year-Old Me,
Right about now, you’re noticing that it only takes a few inches of skin to make you more noticeable—especially to boys. Whether you want to admit it or not, girls like that sense of power they get when boys glance at them. It’s called ‘turning heads’. And you will be tempted to experiment with this.
There will be this one time that your mom notices, with much displeasure, that you’ve pulled off the ‘chastity panels’ (the term your friends invented) she sewed onto your swimsuit to make it more modest. Yes, you’ll tell yourself (and your mom) that you pulled the material off because the stitching was coming loose. And it was. But, your personal convictions about modesty are coming loose, too.
I want you to remember something. There is a man out there whom God is preparing for you. At this very moment in life, this guy is learning to look away and save his eyes for you. He’s developing convictions and a dedication to God, which will someday make him a devoted husband. And when he is your husband, you’ll get to divulge all the secrets that God is asking you to keep right now.
Don’t make the mistake of teasing the attention of boys who soon won’t mean anything to you. Don’t disclose yourself to men who make no commitment to you. Don’t wear shorts or skirts that are too short, or tops that are too low. Don’t choose clothes that are tight or see-through.
The attention that comes from dressing this way is not the sort of attention you want. Wait until you have the full attention of one man, who has devoted his life to you. That’s worth adding a few inches of material here and there, don’t you think?
“Behold, you are beautiful, my love…”
Song of Solomon 1:15
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Good post. We've already been teaching our little boys to turn their heads when they see a girl showing too much skin. Praying that even this “little habit” will stick with them through their lives.
Heidi, dear… you could read this comment two ways, but I'm going to choose to read it the way you intended: to train boys to be pure and turn their heads AWAY from too much skin. 🙂 ha ha
hahaha! Yes, boys, turn your heads TOWARD that scantily clad girl. 😉
This article is fabulous! Would the author mind if I shared this article was shared with some youth group gals and also passed on to friends and family for personal use? Thanks!
sorry for the typo~ *was shared* shouldn't be in there:)
That would be wonderful! These are meant to be shared. 🙂 Thanks for reading.
Typos are welcome on my blog. Makes me feel better when I make them, myself. 🙂