Comparison is often an unwelcome guest. There you are, minding your own business, when—bam. You’re suddenly wondering why her kids are turning out so perfect or why your husband doesn’t buy you new clothes, or whether you weigh more than every other woman in the room.
So what should you do, when comparison starts bullying you into a corner of isolation? My most basic advice is this: Learn to listen to the voice Jesus. Not the world. Not your enemy. And not yourself. Listen to Jesus and let his words matter most. If you open your Bible and look at the red letter verses (which mark Jesus’s words), you’ll not find him telling you you’ve got to measure up or get ahead. In fact, He repeatedly teaches just the opposite.
Here are some quotes from my book Comparison Girl to get you started. I hope they’ll be an encouragement to you, the next time you’re tempted to compare.
Oh Shannon, County Line Church just had our fall retreat. Small group but great study because yes, we did Comparison Girl. Can’t wait to send some of these quotes thru text to the group of ladies to keep us encouraged. The disgust part…..straight to the heart! The one thing we focused a lot on was pride so the quote on pride thickening our comparison walls is so timely. For me the quote on me free living…..oh geez. Oh how I love you and the words the Holy Spirit has given you and gifted you with in writing to teach us.
Kimberly, you are so kind! I wish I could have been with you at the retreat this year. I still remember what a blessing your group was. And yes – the disgust part is what God has been working on with me, as well! Love to all my friends at Countyline!