Control Girl Quiz

Are you a Control Girl?

First of all, you should be commended on your willingness to engage the question. Many women  avoid it.

For years, I saw myself as having the best of intentions. I took matters into my own hands because I cared so much! I was invested! The last word I would have chosen to describe myself was “controlling”. Besides, nobody else told me outright that I was controlling–not even my husband. Yet, there were signs….

  1. Do you struggle with anger? Do you erupt when something doesn’t go your way? Do you lose your cool over small, insignificant interruptions—either disruptions to your afternoon commute or your life trajectory? Do you inwardly (or outwardly) seethe at people who make your life difficult or who disagree with you—even over small things?
  2. Do you struggle with worry or anxiety? Are you gripped with fear over the future? Do you fret about your own safety or the safety of those you love? Do you obsess over small concerns because you’re worried about where they will lead? Do you tend to project into the future, consider all of the “what if’s”, and overreact?
  3. Are you irritated by other controlling people? Is there a controlling person in your life who deeply frustrates you? Are you more bothered by this person than others? Do you react in a passive aggressive manner when a controlling person gives you no choice or violates your “turf”?
  4. Do friends or family members send subtle hints? Do others give tactful clues that they’d like you to back off?  Do they ever roll their eyes and say, “I got it, the first six times, Mom!” or “I can handle it,”? If we cornered the people who love you most, would they privately admit that you are pushy or overbearing?
  5. Do they call you the “Food Nazi”? Or the “Seatbelt Nazi”? Or the “(Fill-in-the-blank) Nazi?” Do other people resist your efforts to get them to do what is in their best interest? Are there people at work, home, or in your community who might say that you micromanage, overstep, or insist on your way?
  6. Does your husband feel disrespected by you? Does he get angry because you interrupt? Does he get frustrated when you give suggestions or tell him how to do it? Does he often become sullen, explosive, or withdrawn? Has he opted out of parenting because you’ve corrected him so much? Has he started spending more time out than in?
  7. Do your kids feel like you’re nagging them? Do your young children have closed hearts toward you? Do your grown children withhold information or try to avoid your questions? Do your kids bristle when you come in the room?
  8. Are you undisciplined? Do you regularly eat too much, spend too much, stay up too late, or spend too much time on social media? Are you constantly late? Do you struggle to live within any sort of boundary lines or limits?
  9. Are you rigidly perfectionistic? Do you obsess over every calorie, every cent, or every minute spent? Are you a perfectionist with your home, your car, your appearance, or your work? Do you feel peace, only when you have everything under control? Do others think of you as rigid and inflexible?
  10. Do you keep hidden agendas? Do you tend to conceal information or only tell part of the story, to give yourself leverage? Do you use information to manipulate people? Do you use relational equity to your advantage?
  11. Do you have a lifestyle of “image control”? Do guard yourself against hurt by trying to control of what people think of you? Do you throw yourself into your work, ministry, or appearance to ward off feelings of worthlessness? Do you put up walls in relationships or limit yourself to superficiality?
  12. Does God seem far away? Do you picture God as distant or uncaring? Are you suspicious of His motives? Do you think of Him as too indifferent, apathetic, or disinterested to concern Himself with the things that matter to you?
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12 Week Series

So, how’d you do? Did you answer yes to some? Most? Do you think you might be a Control Girl?

Over the next twelve Mondays I will publish a post unpacking each of these twelve questions. I hope you’ll check back weekly. Also, over the next twelve Thursdays, I’ll be telling your stories in a “Control Girl to Jesus Girl” series. If you’re interested in having your story told (we can keep it anonymous), use the contact form to get in touch with me.

If, as you engage these series, you conclude that you are indeed a Control Girl, don’t despair. I have good news for you:

No woman has to be a Control Girl.

Yes, women tend to have a bent toward wanting control, but God offers us another option. Another path. He invites us to a life of surrender. To say, as Jesus did, “Not my will, but yours be done.”

Control Girls of the Bible

My new book, Control Girl: Lessons on Surrendering Your Burden of Control From Seven Women in the Bible, is a study of seven Control Girls of the Bible who struggled with control in the same way we do—they pushed for their own agendas, tried to make everything turn out according to their plans, and made everybody miserable in the process.

As we watch God interacting with these Control Girls of the Bible, we gain perspective on our own control struggles. Just like back then, God is in control and we aren’t. He invites us to live accordingly.

Enter the Giveaway

Through February 21, use this link to enter the “Control Girl to Jesus Girl” prize pack giveaway, valued at $100! Here’s what you can enter to win:

Thanks for taking the quiz and entering to win! Let’s go from Control Girl to Jesus Girl, shall we?

 

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6 thoughts on “Control Girl Quiz

  • February 13, 2017 at 9:53 am
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    Ummmm…I answered yes to all except #10…I’m guessing that means I am DEFINITELY a control girl…at the moment anyway but God’s working on me so this too shall pass. 🙄

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    • February 13, 2017 at 10:15 am
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      Michelle, you’re in the right place. Let’s just head in a new direction, shall we? Jesus leads the way. 🙂

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  • February 13, 2017 at 7:28 pm
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    I answered yes to 5 questions. I have always been in charge but, I am trying to let my husband take charge. Whew!!

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    • February 13, 2017 at 8:23 pm
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      Hey, Marie! Thanks for your honesty. I think surrender over husbands alone (rather than trying to control them) is enough to set us on a different path, don’t you?

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  • February 16, 2017 at 4:00 pm
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    Being Married to someone mentally ill has not been easy for 16 years, having my daughters ill also has really made it hard on my son and I… My burden but part of what I read really hit home for me.
    Faith in God is all I have most days !
    Blessings and Thank you
    Linda Marie

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